"Hey, Remember Me?" : Friends And College

The title of this blog post seems to be a recurring theme in text messages that I've received since coming to IU. If you are an incoming student, it's hard to think about, but the truth is you will most likely be making an entirely new group of friends once you come to college. And for me, I've made many different groups of friends since coming here. Now that's not to say that I have "forgotten" about my friends from home, but all I'm saying is that things are different once you leave for college, that's just the reality of the situation.

When I first came to IU, one of the things I was most worried about was how I was going to manage being away from all of my closest friends in the world, even if we were only a few hours away. It was really hard at first and I found myself going home every other weekend during my first semester. And now I can say with complete confidence: that was one of the worst decisions I could have made in my first year at IU. 

Your first year at IU should be all about exploring the university, getting involved, and finding your niche. I did none of those things and as a result, I was behind. I was too focused on keeping my friendships from home going and missed the mark when it came to meeting other students in Bloomington. There is a balance between keeping friends from home and making new friends in college and it's a tough one to strike for new students.

Today I am in a much better place when it comes to this dilemma. Now sometimes I am too much involved at IU with new friends and new experiences that I forget where I came from and my friends who go to other schools (thus the "remember me?" text). It's at those moments where I remember that I need to balance my time between relationships here and those not at IU. 

So, my advice would be to not be afraid to disconnect from your comfort zone when you get here on campus. One of the best learning experiences in college is not in the class room, but from being around those who are different from you. Take advantage of the opportunity to meet new people, but never forget where you came from.

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