Making Real Friendships in College

We're about two months into school and you've most likely settled into a group of friends you've met at school. These people are no longer just for exploring campus with or fun-time buddies; these people are going to turn into your support system. Making casual friends is easy, but building lasting relationships takes work, but worth the sweat!

Show me your friends, I'll show you your future.

It's easy and fun to get caught up in IU's party scene, but make sure you surround yourself with people who have the same values as you. If not, you'll wake up a junior and wonder how you became the opposite of who you wanted to be. 

It's who you want to hang out on a Tuesday afternoon AND a Saturday night.

It's always fun to have people you can call any night of the week for a midnight Pizza X splurge or crazy night on the town, but it's just as important to have people you can call when life is drowning you in lemons. It's OK to have friends that only call when there's a party on the horizon, but make sure you're building friendships for those lonely nights in.

Don't be surprised when people let you down.

People hurt people. You'll hurt friends and friends are going to hurt you. Let go of pride and apologize if hurt a friend. If the friendship is real and strong, it's worth fighting for. If someone lets you down and they don't apologize, part of growing up is forgiving without the "I'm sorry." People who truly care about you will put your friendship before anything else.

College is a fun but scary time and facing it alone is even scarier. Surround yourself with people who will build you up instead of tear you down.

About The Author
Lauren McConnellClas of 2013 - English Major and Arts Management Certificate

I'm a student at Indiana University and am very involved on campus! I work as a copy-editor and reporter for the Indiana Daily Student and am an editor for Arbutus. I also have a press relations internship with IU Liberian Collections and am a committee chair for Independent Council, an organization for women interested in philanthropy in a social atmosphere. With all these experiences, I can't imagine spending my college years anywhere but Indiana!